"She does not want to have oral sex, I'm going to end?"

Hello Robert, I have a problem I hope you can help me with. I love oral sex, both giving and getting, but my girlfriend feel uncomfortable when I lick her, so she usually does not like me to do it.

She can rarely suck me , at most, once a month for about 1 minute ago ids her no more, and then it is I who ask for it, but I do not want to be repetitive either ... We've talked about it several times, and she says she is and wants to suck me off more often, but there will be no difference.

We have been together for over 2 years now, looking to sex until we start doing things that I also want and not just what she wants (run missionary once a week). But do not know if that would help. Do not force her to do something she does not want. Is it wrong to break up because of this? 

I'm still only 23, she's 22 and should be together for life it's some time left hopefully. :) Grateful for answers / P

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Hello P!

It can be very tricky when it stuck in sex, especially when only the delay will arrive. It has gone so far that you want sex or break up with your girlfriend.

There are other options that you can try. The first is communication. Talking about your sex life can be for many strange and difficult at first. But it is often important! In a non-sexual situation try to put you down and start talking about your relationship. What do you think is good, and what would you like to improve? Do you have time for each other, you will find new things, how do you show each other appreciation, do you have any future plans? Often linked sex and relationship together - that is to say that if sex feels dull and boring, the relationship itself having to reinvent itself.

It may also be the case in your relationship, it has become a lock and a negative spiral.You say you want to have oral sex, she promises (but feel uneasy / unwillingness) there will be none of that. In the end, maybe both of you go around and think your sex life is bad and mechanically - which is the time to break! Maybe you should try to see each other with new eyes, daring to try to be apart and longing for each other.  

When the relative savings take each other for granted, so often puts the erotic attraction. Esther Perel is a sexological psychologist who believes that passion and attraction comes from the family once again creates a distance from each other - by moving apart during a period, being away from each other, or maybe open up a relationship (either just on the mental plane or physically).

Since it may also be that you are currently not compatible with each sexual partner. You may want different things - and to do something against one's own will is never good. Compromise is one thing - but there must be some curiosity, lust or joy in what you do.Having a relationship can have in many ways - it is possible to live completely monogamous or to have sexual openness - allowing their partner to have sex outside the relationship.

I think it's important that you tell about your feelings for her. That this is important to you. You can do this without being accusatory or demanding - talk by yourself if what you are feeling and why. For example, you can say, "I want to think that your sex life will be experimental and daring to enjoy a variety of things." Ask her if there is anything you can do so that she will feel more comfortable when you go down on her and so on.  

But above all, ask her what she thinks is good and what she would like to do more of. But, if you still do not know to test to work on your relationship, it is not wrong to break up with someone.

Regardless, good luck!

Warm regards, Robert.